Ever Faithful To His Lead : My Journey Away From Emotional Abuse is a memoir, a true life tears to triumph story of self-defeating detours and dreams lost and found.
A young woman who loses sight of the faith she has been brought up with attempts to find her way in the world, rejecting her stable roots in lieu of finding adventure and romance. Despite periods of spiritual renewal in which she receives a prophecy, she slides back, taking several self-defeating detours that take her through a series of heartbreaking events.
When Kathy’s second husband, Dan’s verbal abuse escalates, Kathy finally realizes she must move on before she and her children become a statistic.
How does a young woman who came from a stable, loving family make so many wise choices when it came to career, but so many wrong choices when it came to love, so that she ended up sacrificing career and having to flee in broad daylight with her children from an abusive marriage? What is getting in her way and why does she keep taking so many self-defeating detours?
The story opens up the day Kathy feels physically threatened for the first time in her three-year marriage to her second husband. This sends her on a journey to make sense of her life and discern what part she has played in the vulnerable circumstance she finds herself in.
She must make a decision–face her self-defeating patterns that have led to this situation and move on or repeat her mistakes. Her life and the lives of her two children are dependent upon the choices she makes and the chances she takes from this point forward.
Genre: Memoir Publisher: Open Books Press (July 22, 2014) ASIN: B00M17OXYO Twitter hashtag: #EFaithPooler
please tell us a little bit about your current projects?
Currently I am in the book launch/initial marketing phase of my first memoir, Ever Faithful to His Lead: My Journey Away From Emotional Abuse which was published on July 28, 2014 by Open Books Press.. I am 15,000 words into a second memoir, a sequel. The working title is Hope Matters: A Memoir of Faith. It will be about how my faith gave me hope during the simultaneous battle of a diagnosis of Stage Four NonHodgson’s Lymphoma and my young adult son’s downward spiral into substance abuse. I continue to blog weekly about memoir writing, publishing and social media and do guest posts on other blogs. I feature other authors and their work on my blog as well.
When was the moment that you knew you had to be a writer?
I don’t recall one specific moment but I do recall an unrelenting desire to write—whether it be in my diary or writing plays for my maternal grandmother and her friends as a ten year old; journaling my way through relationship conflicts or penning the annual Christmas Letter. Writing has been an important part of my life for as long as I can remember. I finally answered the call to take my writing to the next level in 1999 when I took my first writing course Getting Started in Writing through Writer’s Digest. However, I did not call myself a writer until 2009 when I was told during a Writer’s Digest Editor’s Intensive Weekend that I was a writer because I wrote.
Who gave you the one piece of writing advice that sticks with you to this day?
I met a literary agent at my first national writing conference in 2010 in Boston who in response to my pitch, said: “Fascinating story. It will all be in the telling.” In that moment, I realized that I needed to commit to learning the art and craft of writing if I was to get my story out there in a meaningful way. I think of that encounter often.
What are some of your favorite pastimes?
Reading, writing, playing the piano, exercise classes, especially Zumba.
What has been your biggest adventure to date?
In September, 2-13, my husband, Wayne and I traveled to Italy for eleven days- Rome, Pompeii, The Amalfi Coast, Florence ad Venice. While in The Amalfi Coast, I hired a translator and driver to pick us up one day and drive us to the home of my paternal grandfather in Dugenta, a tiny mountain village near Naples. We spent six hours meeting relatives, reminiscing and eating. It was a trip of a lifetime. The amazing part of this trip was the immediate connection I felt with the family. They were the nieces and nephews of my grandfather, now in their 8os. Their mother was my grandfather’s sister. Although they had never met my grandfather, they knew him well through their mother.
If your fairy godmother waved her wand and whisked you away to the location of your choice, which place would you choose, and why?
I left my heart in Italy and would love to go back someday.
When it comes to food, are you the adventurous type who will try anything once, or do you prefer to stick to tried and true foods and recipes?
I like to be adventuresome, although I do like to eat healthy. Variety is important. Probably my favorite foods are fresh from the garden. I also love “peasant food”—soups and stews. Of course, I also love a good, rich dessert, especially if it has chocolate and nuts in it.
How do you describe yourself?
Sociable, friendly, sensitive to others, perfectionist, hard worker
How would your family and friends describe you?
Kind, compassionate, overly-sensitive, creative, earthy, industrious.
What is your favorite comfort food?
Spaghetti and meatballs, mostly because it reminds me of my maternal grandmother, Nan. Eating it takes me right back to that 1950’s kitchen where Nan stood at the white stove stirring the sauce. She’d always spoon some out for me to taste.
What is your favorite season?
Autumn for it’s new beginnings, brilliant colors and family-related activities—apple picking, carving pumpkins, cool, sunny days.
What do you love about it?
I get the sense of a return to order, starting with a clean slate, switching gears from the hectic days of summer. Fall is hectic but in a different, more focused way.
What is the one modern convenience that you cannot do without?
As much as I hate to admit it, I am tethered to my cell phone. I know that because I feel a sense of panic when I can’t find it. Of course, garage door openers, TV remotes, microwaves, computers all take a close second.
What is this romance writer’s idea of the “ideal romantic evening”?
I’m not a romance writer but my idea of an ideal romantic evening is sharing time and space with someone who makes you feel valued, whether it be over dinner by candlelight or lounging on the coach watching a movie together. It’s not the activity, it’s the person you are with that makes it romantic.
Any place we can find you in person or on the net this month or next?
My website, Memoir Writer’s Journey: http://krpooler.com has a section on Events where my book-related activities are listed.
I blog weekly on this site and also do guest posts on other sites.
About the Author: Kathleen Pooler is an author and a retired Family Nurse Practitioner whose memoir, Ever Faithful to His Lead: My Journey Away From Emotional Abuse, published on July 28.2014 and work-in-progress sequel, Hope Matters: A Memoir are about how the power of hope through her faith in God helped her to transform, heal and transcend life’s obstacles and disappointments: domestic abuse, divorce, single parenting, loving and letting go of an alcoholic son, cancer and heart failure to live a life of joy and contentment. She believes that hope matters and that we are all strengthened and enlightened when we share our stories.
She lives with her husband Wayne in eastern New York.
She blogs weekly at her Memoir Writer’s Journey blog:http://krpooler.com
She still loves Twitter @kathypooler
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One of her stories “The Stone on the Shore” is published in the anthology: “The Woman I’ve Become: 37 Women Share Their Journeys From Toxic Relationships to Self-Empowerment” by Pat LaPointe, 2012.
Another story: “Choices and Chances” is published in the “My Gutsy Story Anthology” by Sonia Marsh, September, 2013.
———-Blog Tour Dates Monday, October 6 @ The Muffin Stop by for an interview and book giveaway!
Tuesday, October 7 @ Choices
Find out what fellow memoir writer Madeline Sharples thinks after reading Kathleen Pooler’s memoir, Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey to Memoir. This is a blog stop you won’t want to miss!
Wednesday, October 8 @ All Things Audry
Join Kathleen Pooler as she explores “How a Nurse Learns to Care for Herself” as she visits All Things Audry with her memoir Ever Faithful to His Lead. Kathleen is generously offering an ebook copy of Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey to Memoir to one lucky winner of a giveaway. Thank you to both Kathleen and Audry!
Friday, October 10 @ Sherrey Meyer
Join Kathleen Pooler as she writes a guest post titled “Writing as a Pathway to Healing” and shares her thoughts with author and friend, Sherrey Meyer. Find out more about Kathleen and her insightful memoir Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey to Memoir.
Monday, October 13 @ Women’s Writing Circle
Kathleen Pooler sits down with Susan Weidener for a friendly conversation about how Kathleen crowdfunded her memoir, Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey to Memoir.
Tuesday, October 14 @ Lauren Scharhag
Don’t miss Kathleen Pooler’s interview with Lauren Scharhag as these ladies discuss the hot topic of memoir. Find out more about Kathleen and her own Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey to Memoir
Tuesday, October 14 @ Vera’s Version
Join Kathleen Pooler as she guest blogs about “How Writing Memoir Helped Me Find Self-Forgiveness” at Vera’s Version and shares insight into her memoir Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey to Memoir.
Wednesday, October 15 @ About Amish
Kathleen Pooler and her memoir Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey to Memoir makes a stop to visit Saloma Furlong at About Amish where you can read Saloma’s review and get in a giveaway for an opportunity to read Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey to Memoir for yourself!
Thursday, October 16 @ Lisa Haselton
Join Lisa Haselton as she interviews Kathleen Pooler and we all learn more about Kathleen’s memoir Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey to Memoir.
Friday, October 17 @ Jerry Waxler
Author, Friend, and Fellow Memoir Writer Jerry Waxler reviews Kathleen Pooler’s Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey to Memoir. This is a blog stop you won’t want to miss!
Monday, October 20 @ Romance Junkies
Join Kathleen Pooler as she stops at Romance Junkies for an insightful interview about herself and her memoir, Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey to Memoir.
Tuesday, October 21 @ Mary Gottschalk
Kathleen Pooler shares her latest project: Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey to Memoir as she visits with friend and fellow author Mary Gottschalk and fittingly writes about “Girlfriends Matter”. This is a blog stop you won’t want to miss!
Wednesday, October 22 @ CMash Reads
Join memoir writer Kathleen Pooler as she guest posts at CMash Reads. Kathleen will share her story of “Writing Through the Pain” and tell more about her popular memoir Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey to Memoir.
Thursday, October 23 @ Bring on Lemons
Hear what Crystal Otto has to say as she reviews Kathleen Pooler’s Ever Faithful To His Lead: My Journey to Memoir. Don’t miss this blog stop as Kathleen Pooler has graciously provided a copy of her memoir for one lucky reader to win via a giveaway!